Seriously?

Yes, seriously. You see, I was sitting in the hall with many of my ACTS brothers having our 1st team meeting in preparation for our upcoming ACTS retreat in April. And as clear as a ringing bell I heard the Holy Spirit say to me “Matt, it’s time to tell your story”. See, all the years that I’ve been on the ACTS team and the similar Kolbe teams, I’ve been scared to death to be asked to give a talk. I felt hollow inside, just going through the motions, but felt like a shell of a man. Had I been asked to give a talk I probably would’ve soiled my depends. LOL.

I went home that day and started writing as if I was going to give a talk, not knowing if I was even going to be called to give one. That writing went on and on. Coincidentally, my wife’s car needed to be put in the shop so I had to drive her to work. I would drop her off and go to Cotton Patch with my laptop and write, and write and write. By the end of the week I had a written a book!

Now what? It seemed to me that my book would be of value to others who had suffered childhood traumas but what do I do about it? By writing down my story, by being able to put it into words, and being willing to share it with others gave me a sense of freedom. What followed was what feels like another call from the Holy Spirit to reach out to other victims and try to help them and even more specifically to try to reach the yet unidentified victims that were molested by the same priest that molested me.

Similar to the “Me Too” movement, and the women of the Cosby scandal, the victims of this particular priest need to know that they are not alone. Their suffering will continue without abatement, potentially unnecessarily costing lives until they are able to reach out and get help.

So you, see, me telling my story, me starting this blog, me reaching out to the news to have my story told boils down to a question of obedience.

What would you do?

Pope Francis, I appeal you to meet the needs of survivors of clergy sexual abuse by making reparations commensurate with the damage, emotional or otherwise, caused to survivors. I have ideas on how to do this. If you can’t do this, then I respectfully ask, on behalf of the Church, you to stop receiving communion until such time that the Church does. Because until the Church does, it will not be in communion with the saints. Sincere contrition is meaningless without reparations in kind. Demonstrate to the world that the Catholic Church is catholic; that is, the Church Jesus established with Peter as the rock, the first pope; that the Church practices what it preaches.

Thanks for reading.

Wishing you much love and peace,

Matt

“Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway. For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” ― Mother Teresa

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Thank you for posting…Sharing intimate details is scary. Thank you for being so brave and for reaching out to others through this blog. I know much of your heart in this blog. Your openness and honesty is quiet beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

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‘You make the reality of what you and other victims have suffered so very clear, but we all need to know that it happened. People want to help, we want to speak up and reassure, but sometimes, we just don’t know how. We are learning, hopefully. God bless you and your journey to complete peace.’

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13 thoughts on “Seriously?

  1. Thank you for following my blog. I have decided to read your posts from the beginning. My husband was horrifically sexually abused as a young boy. He also went to a Catholic school, although his abuse did not happen there. He does not like to talk about his history of abuse, which I can certainly understand. I hope that by reading through your posts, I can understand my husband a little better.

    God bless! And thank you for being obedient to the Lord’s leading you to share your experience, strength, and hope.

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    1. Welcome to my humble block. You will find that I’m very upfront and honest about the struggles that I, and other survivors go through. I belong and have belonged to several support groups over the years. I hear the cries of survivors of sexual abuse, at the hands of clergy, and otherwise. Regardless, many of our struggles are similar. I hope you won’t be put off by my focus on clergy abuse and my Christian beliefs that I sometimes reference. I sincerely hope that you/he finds it helpful. I write it with the intent to help both survivors and loved of the same. In my blog I share MY healing journey, and it’s dark at times. Also, I’m growing into it, I hope, and with time it will get ‘better’? I am humbled and grateful that you might find it helpful. Comments are much appreciated! I, too, will be checking out your blog as it seems relevant. My I reference and/or use quotes from your blog, with citations of course? – Matt

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      1. Thank you, Matt. My husband and I are both Christians, and my husband is a chaplain. So I appreciate your Christian perspective. We are not Catholics, however. But some of our closest friends are Catholic.

        I will certainly not be put off by your focus on clergy abuse. My father was a church pastor. He was also severely abusive. And, when I was fifteen years old, I was inappropriately touched by a priest. So I have no illusions about the status of ‘clergy’. They are human and prone to sin, like all humans are, apart from God.

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  2. Matt, I’m sorry to hear that you have gone through something so heavy. You are now reaching out and feeling better a step at a time. I will keep you in my prayers and keep praying that the Holy Spirit keeps guiding you and healing you. God Bless.

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    1. Thank you. When these traumas are not identified right away, as often times they aren’t and was true in my case, the longer they go untreated the more difficult they are to treat. Children don’t know how to deal with sexual abuse and will often times bury the memories where they are later described as suppressed or repressed. That, too, was true in my case. But in 2003, I found it necessary to report to the diocese very concerning information about someone who was wanting to be deaconized. The information suggested this individual might also be a predator. The diocese immediately put me in therapy and subsequently my repressed memories of the abuse at the hands of the priest came out. So, I’ve been dealing with this, more or less head on, since then. The reason I tell you this is to assure you that my feelings are not raw. Yes, even though I heard the Holy Spirit call me to tell my story, it’s been very difficult at times. I even checked myself into the hospital for a short spell. Hate to use this analogy, but I almost feel as though I am standing in front of the world naked. But, I have a good support system, if I can be strong enough to reach out to them. Reaching out for help can be very difficult as well, for a number of reasons. My prayer now is that I can be strong for others who aren’t as far along in their healing journey as I am. That’s the purpose of this blog; 1) to help others in their healing journey and 2) help others understand their loved ones who have been through such a thing. But absolutely, this is very heavy and I get why people want to stay away from it. That’s an entirely different conversation; what do we do for the victims. The answer is not enough because the masses just wish it would go away. Thank you for your encouragement.

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