‘No more pain’ victim wrote of Pa. priest sex abuse, as he and others took their own lives.
In a detailed letter to the Diocese of Pittsburgh, a man outlined the extensive abuse he endured at the hands of a priest while serving as an altar boy in his hometown parish.
He classified his experiences as sexual, physical and emotional abuse — memories that plagued his mind for years, and ones he certainly couldn’t escape.
The details recounted in his case, contained in … the Pennsylvania grand jury report on priest sex abuse, are graphic, describing situations of horrendous sexual abuse.
Through tears, he cried out, “No Father,” as the Rev. Richard Dorsch held the victim’s hand firm around the priest’s genitals. And the other assaults were similar, just as intensely damaging, as the victim described.
When confronted with the allegations, [the priest] did not deny them. He did not act as though the name of the victim was one he didn’t recognize. Rather, he acknowledged the abuse — somewhat. He said he was “inappropriate with the victim.”
The diocese began paying for the victim’s mental health treatment in July 2008, one month after he attempted suicide.
He documented how he felt during those desperate moments:
“Early in the summer this year — in fact, it was the day of the summer solstice itself— I attempted to take my own life. It happened in the wee hours of the morning following a night of heavy drink, which my doctors have explained may have induced an inescapable episodic flashback of sexual abuse, which has haunted me over the years. This time, however, the pain of that flashback I couldn’t stand any longer, and decided that enough was enough. No more pain I thought as I swallowed dozens of pills.”
Almost two years later, in March 2010, the diocese told the victim they would no longer pay for his mental health treatment. A reason or explanation was not given in the grand jury report. It is not certain if the victim was given one himself.
But what is certain is that the victim took his own life two months later.
And while his story is tragic, it’s not the only one of its kind. The grand jury report documents 12 other priests whose victims either attempted suicide or died by suicide. One instance involves the priest himself, who died by suicide, claiming he also was a victim of abuse.
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Pope Francis, I appeal you to meet the needs of survivors of clergy sexual abuse by making reparations commensurate with the damage, emotional or otherwise, caused to survivors. I have ideas on how to do this. If you can’t do this, then I respectfully ask, on behalf of the Church, you to stop receiving communion until such time that the Church does. Because until the Church does, it will not be in communion with the saints. Sincere contrition is meaningless without reparations in kind. Demonstrate to the world that the Catholic Church is catholic; that is, the Church Jesus established with Peter as the rock, the first pope; that the Church practices what it preaches.
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