I realize this blog talks about things that are uncomfortable, to put it mildly. But it’s important for victim/survivors to know they are not alone. It’s not your fault!!! Regardless of your age. Accept and believe that. It’s well established that predators seek out those wounded by earlier abuses, they seek out those suffering and reaching out for help, they seek out those vulnerable for whatever reason. The only people that blame victims are people that are not informed, that don’t know the well documented dynamics of predatory behavior. As sad as it is, it’s a skill that predators have and hone. It is disgusting that people that we are supposed to be able to trust to keep us safe, it’s disgusting that they abuse their authority. These violators include parents, teachers, priests, and many other authority figures. It’s not your fault!!! Please work on stopping the self-blame that many of us struggle with so that you can move on in your healing journey. Please contact me using the “Contact” page on my website or message me on FB if you want to talk more about this. It’s a private message.
It’s important that victim/survivors have a place where they can learn how to deal with the lifelong effects of the abuse they suffered. It’s important for them to have an outlet where it’s safe to share their experiences and struggles. It’s important for victims to have support from as many people as possible because recovery can be a lifelong process. It’s not your fault!!! It’s my hope that this blog will in some small way help us victim/survivors to recover and improve the quality of our lives and thus those we love.
It’s also my hope that this blog will help loved ones of survivors to understand the struggles that we go through. It’s my hope that by sharing my experience, which can also the be the experience of other survivors, it will help loved ones to better relate with those recovering. Loved ones are important to our recovery because we need your support and understanding. There are many resources to help loved ones in learning how to be supportive. Seek them out. Follow the previous link to get started.
Without the resources to deal with these issues, too many people affected by severe abuses turn to alcohol, drugs, and other addictions and some even end up taking their own lives. At the least, many victim/survivors suffer from failed relations past present and future. It doesn’t have to be that way.
This is a world-wide crisis and it’s my hope that this blog helps others. Even if it only brings recognition that help is available and encourages others to seek help. Please check out my “Resources” and “Library” pages.
If you are in crisis, please check out my “Are you in Crisis” page. There are a few links to other resources including hotlines. I know it’s hard to pick up that thousand-pound phone, but please do it. I have and it’s not that bad. You can call them anything to talk about ANY THING! If you want to talk further I encourage you to private message me using the “Contact” page on my website or message me on FB.
Thanks for reading.
Wishing you much love and peace,
“Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway. For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” ― Mother Teresa
Pope Francis, I appeal you to meet the needs of survivors of clergy sexual abuse by making reparations commensurate with the damage, emotional or otherwise, caused to survivors. I have ideas on how to do this. If you can’t do this, then I respectfully ask, on behalf of the Church, you to stop receiving communion until such time that the Church does. Because until the Church does, it will not be in communion with the saints. Sincere contrition is meaningless without reparations in kind. Demonstrate to the world that the Catholic Church is catholic; that is, the Church Jesus established with Peter as the rock, the first pope; that the Church practices what it preaches.
Ps: Have words of encouragement or a testimony to share? Does/has this blog helped you in some way? Know of additional, valuable resources? Suggestions for topics? Post a comment or you can also send me a private message by using the “Contact” page on my website or message me on FB.
Consider sharing this blog with others. Victim/survivors of abuses, more often than not, carry this burden silently alone, not knowing how to deal with it or where to turn, but need hope. Loved ones and caregivers also need support. We never know who is or wants to reach out for help. This blog might be of help to caregivers and loved ones of abuse. Silence is deadly and if together we are able to help or save just one life, isn’t that worth it?
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An excerpt from the blog The Effects of Sexual Abuse Never Go Away” – “ A child is likely to be left with strong feelings of anger, fear, shame, hurt and disappointment”. That’s some of the reasons why 45 years later I’ve never told my story. Yes, it’s hidden and yes it affects me to … Continue reading Anonymous
Thank you for posting…Sharing intimate details is scary. Thank you for being so brave and for reaching out to others through this blog. I know much of your heart in this blog. Your openness and honesty is quiet beautiful. Thank you for sharing.
‘You make the reality of what you and other victims have suffered so very clear, but we all need to know that it happened. People want to help, we want to speak up and reassure, but sometimes, we just don’t know how. We are learning, hopefully. God bless you and your journey to complete peace.’