Summary: Great story from Linda Lee/Lady Quixote. Many good, recommended by her, references of how she pulled herself out of the mud she encountered along her healing journey.
Body: Linda Lee/Lady Quixote, thanks for sharing your story. It’s very brave of you to share such intimate details, and awesome that you recommend resources that’ve helped you when nothing else seemed to work; when you’ve gotten stuck in the mud. I’ll be giving these a look.
Below is a condensed, by me, version of her “condensed” version, written by Linda Lee/Lady Quixote, and used with permission:
“… was a horrible, mind-warping, life-threatening experience …”
“Too much of my life was crippled with gut-twisting anxiety and nightmarish panic attacks. Nothing I tried — deep breathing, positive thinking, counting my blessings, listening to music, mindfulness meditation, prayer, or “going to my happy place” — seemed to make much difference.”
“… and talking with therapists, when I finally found a good one, was only helpful up to a point.”
“Please see A WORD OF WARNING near the bottom of this page about the dangers I have found when looking for psychological help online. Also, please understand that while my husband and I have had a lot of healing due to the various treatment methods described below, we are not (yet?) completely cured of PTSD.”
““One important discovery is that self-help seems to be a key to recovery whether or not you receive treatment.””
“… genes play a role, genetics cannot be the whole story … I believe the answer will ultimately be found in epigenetics, which has more to do with our environment than our blueprint.”
The book reference: “WHY DO CHRISTIANS SHOOT THEIR WOUNDED? Helping (Not Hurting) Those with Emotional Difficulties by by Dwight L. Carlson, MD.”
The book reference: “TRAUMA AND RECOVERY: The Aftermath of Violence – from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Lewis Herman.”
The book reference: “IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT: How Healing Relationships Change Your Brain and Can Help You Overcome a Painful Past by Patricia Romano McGraw. ~Modern brain imaging technologies have revealed that early childhood neglect and abandonment, as well as severe trauma occurring at any age, can damage the brain – by actually changing the brain’s structure and function.”
This is why we can’t “just get over” certain types of trauma. Like a person paralyzed in a car crash, the traumatic event may be in the distant past, but the injury it caused is still present.
“… the injured brain CAN HEAL – literally rewire itself – in the context of loving and affirming relationships!
Shaming, shunning, or brow beating someone who is psychologically injured will only make matters worse. Would you whip a quadriplegic to get him to walk again? Of course not! The only humane and truly effective way to treat mental health issues is with compassion, respect, and loving care.”
The book reference: “HEALING DEVELOPMENTAL TRAUMA: How Early Trauma Affects Self-Regulation, Self-Image, and the Capacity for Relationship by Laurence Heller, PhD, and Aline Lapierre, PsyD. ~This book explains why a crazy childhood will put you on the path to a crazy adulthood – and what to do about it.”
“… if you are currently in a verbally or physically abusive relationship, or in a situation where your rights, desires, and needs are routinely discounted or ignored.”
“~Trauma and loss can cause you to question the meaning and purpose of life.”
“I was agnostic for many years, primarily because of the cruel abuses and self-seeking hypocrisy I’ve encountered in some “Christians.” However, I am far from perfect myself. I continue to struggle with my faith at times, because some of the tenets of Christianity do not make sense to me. But despite my intellectual doubts, the fact remains that when I encountered a God of Love and Light all those years ago, His wonderful presence was as real to me as anything I have ever experienced. This, along with the evidence of Intelligent Design, are just two of the many reasons why I am now a Christian believer.”
“I respect everyone’s right to believe, or not, as each person sees fit. Some of my favorite people are agnostic or practitioners of non-Christian religions. However, based on the preponderance of the evidence in my life, I have decided to follow Christ Jesus as my Savior and Lord.
Although I am leaving the best for last, The Holy Bible is first on my list, especially: Romans 10:8; Psalm 23:1-6; Psalm 30:1-12; Psalm 103:1-22; Isaiah 49:15-16; John 3:1-21; Romans 8:1-39; 1 Corinthians 13:1-13; 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18; Revelation 3:19-20; and many other verses, most notably the spoken words of Christ.”
I have used the above excerpts from A Blog About Healing from PTSD, with the author’s permission, per the following copyright:
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Thank you, Linda Lee/Lady Quixote. You are an inspiration and blessing to this world. My prayers for you and your husband. Keep the faith, as they say.
Thanks for reading.
Wishing you much love and peace,
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Thank you for posting…Sharing intimate details is scary. Thank you for being so brave and for reaching out to others through this blog. I know much of your heart in this blog. Your openness and honesty is quiet beautiful. Thank you for sharing.
‘You make the reality of what you and other victims have suffered so very clear, but we all need to know that it happened. People want to help, we want to speak up and reassure, but sometimes, we just don’t know how. We are learning, hopefully. God bless you and your journey to complete peace.’