Importance of Relationships

Summary: Healthy relationships are so important and go a long way in healing.

Body: Taken from:  The Underrated Healing Power of a Healthy Relationship

“Of course, relationships—unhealthy relationships—are also a major source of the problem. In one of the most memorable passages of The Deepest Well, Burke Harris recounts sitting down with 10-year-old Kayla and her mom to identify the cause of a severe asthma flair-up. After running through all the typical triggers without success, Kayla’s mom said, “Well, her asthma does seem to get worse whenever her dad punches a hole in the wall. Do you think that could be related?”

That question—whether unhealthy human relationships can lead to physical ailments—drives Burke Harris’s career and animates her bookAs she explains, traditional medical approaches and standard therapies came up short in explaining or alleviating her young patients’ suffering. “Trying to treat these children felt like jamming unmatched puzzle pieces together,” she writes. “The symptoms, causes and treatments were close, but not enough to give that satisfying click…I asked myself again and again: What’s the connection?”

Why Healthy Relationships Are So Important

As humans, the relationships we form with other people are vital to our mental and emotional wellbeing, and really, our survival.

Humans have an inherent desire to be close to other people. To connect and build relationships. While a man stranded on an island, talking to a volleyball (you remember the movie!) isn’t necessarily “healthy,” his compulsion for company is. That’s because the fact of the matter is, healthy relationships (romantic relationships, friendships, familial relationships — they all count!) can help make for a healthier overall life. But what exactly does a healthy relationship look like?

A positive relationship can be shared between any two people who love, support, encourage and help each other practically as well as emotionally. In no particular order, people in healthy relationships tend to:

  • Listen to each other
  • Communicate openly and without judgment
  • Trust and respect each other
  • Consistently make time for each other
  • Remember details about each other’s lives
  • Engage in healthy activities together”

This is me, Matt, writing: Obviously not all relationships are healthy. However, it is good self care to avoid unhealthy relationships. They can sap the life out of you. Though I’m not a big fan of cut-offs, there are times when it’s appropriate. Consider the following when evaluating relationships:

You were born to be loved and you deserve to be loved. If are in a relationship where you are not being loved, think about the above. Choose healthy relationships. Love yourself. Recovery depends on it.

Thanks for reading.

Wishing you much love and peace,

Matt

“Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway. For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” ― Mother Teresa

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